Valentine’s day is round the corner, in recent times it has been recognised as one the most commercialized celebration of love. Contrary to our varying personal beliefs, sexual love has taken over the mainstream media leaving every young person curious and or stimulated about having the experience. We thought it only right and fit to have an expert takeover the blog to educate us better on SEX before ‘CUPID’ takes over.

Meet Dr. Fatu Forna, she is an Obstetrician-Gynecologist, Epidemiologist, and writer who lives in Atlanta, Georgia with her husband and four children. She received her medical degree from Duke University School of Medicine and completed her Obstetrics and Gynecology residency at Emory University School of Medicine. She is a Fellow of the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists and a member of the Medical and Dental Council in Sierra Leone.
She currently works to reduce maternal morbidity and mortality and to improve the quality of care provided to women both in the US and in Sierra Leone. She has served as Lead for Reproductive and Maternal Health for the World Health Organization in Sierra Leone and as a Medical Epidemiologist at the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. She has worked in many countries around the world and is an international expert on maternal mortality reduction and other reproductive and maternal health issues. She is a passionate advocate for the reproductive health of young women and men, and the author of the book “From your doctor to you. What every teenage girl should know about her body, sex, STDs and contraception”. Dr. Forna created the From Your Doctor to You: Puberty Party, Womanhood Party, and Manhood Party to teach teenagers and young women and men the tools they need to protect their sexual and reproductive health.
Dr. Forna is Co-Founder and Co-Executive Director of the non-profit Mama-Pikin Foundation, which works to improve the health of women, children, and families in Sierra Leone. She has been featured on CNN International for her work improving the health of women and children around the world, along with her husband Dr. Shekou Sesay.
You can get more information about Dr. Forna and about the ‘From Your Doctor to You’: Puberty Party, Womanhood Party, and Manhood Party at:

The World Health Organization defines Sexual Health as “A state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction or infirmity. Sexual health requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. For sexual health to be attained and maintained, the sexual rights of all persons must be respected, protected and fulfilled”.

From your doctor to you here’s a list of 10 interesting, weird and surprising facts that every adult should know to help optimize their Sexual Health.

1. Celebrate Sexuality: Feelborthi sweet!

Humans are sexual beings. We need to have sex to allow our species to continue to procreate and thrive. We enjoy sex because nature and evolution made sure that sex was pleasurable so that we wanted and needed to have sex and propagate our species!

2. Human Right: Nar you right for feelborthi but nor force orda porsin!

Every person deserves to have healthy and enjoyable sexual experiences and the right to choose when, where, and with whom they have sex without coercion. Both people having sex should want to have sex freely and should not be pressured or physically forced to have sex.

3. Equal Rights: Nobody nor for enjoy pass en compin!

Women and men have the same sexual needs and desires so individuals should make sure that they care about their partners needs the same way they care about their own needs. You should try your best to make sure your partner has a pleasurable experience – that will also make your experience even more pleasurable.

4. Safety. Nor bring sick or belleh nar ya o!

Safe sex is an important part of a fulfilling and healthy sexual and reproductive life. Use a condom every single time you have sex until you are married or ready to have a child. Do not let anyone’s skin touch your skin until that time. This advice will literally save your life and keep you from getting Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) like HIV, Hepatitis, Herpes, Syphilis, Human Papilloma Virus, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, Trichomonas, or Pregnancy before you are ready. Use other contraception (like pills, injections, implants or IUD) in addition to condoms if you are not ready to get pregnant, because condoms sometimes break, and people don’t always use condoms like they planned to.

5. Communication: Leh we talk bot sex!

Partners should talk to each other and share their likes, dislikes, fantasies and desires so they each understand how to meet each other’s needs. You will not know how to pleasure your partner if you never ask them what they like. Talk with your partner about what they like today!

6. Transparency: Lie lie nor for dae pan feelborthi – nar we ormus dae nar ya?

Partners should be truthful with each other about their past and current sexual history and sexual practices so that there is mutual respect, understanding, and trust within the relationship and so that they can each make informed decisions. If you have or have had multiple sexual partners, your partner deserves to know.

7. Choice: Nar for take tem fen man or uman for marade!

Choose the person you marry carefully because that person literally has your life and health in their hands as most married couples have sex without a condom to protect them. Your spouse can expose you to multiple STDs, so you need to make sure that they are either faithful to you or using condoms to protect against STDs if they have other relationships.

8. Full Disclosure. Da paper dae, mek ah see am wit me yone ball yeye!

The only person you can trust 100% is yourself. Sexually active adults should get routine STD testing (HIV, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia) and share results with their partners. Make sure you get tested together about once a year, or see each other’s results, even if you are using condoms. There are many cases were one partner knows that they have an STD and never disclose their results to their spouse or partner. #ShowMeYourPapers.

9. Protect the Clitoris. Norto man normor for enjoy!

The clitoris is a very important part of sex for women. It is similar to the head of the man’s penis. Most women cannot have an orgasm easily if part of their clitoris has been cut off. Women have a difficult time fully enjoying sex without their clitoris and men are also deprived of the enjoyment of having a partner that is completely sexually satisfied. Couples who have undergone Female Genital Cutting (FGC) should work together and try different sexual positions, mutual masturbation, watch videos together, and do whatever is needed to find the correct way to satisfy their partner – satisfaction can happen, it just takes some extra work. Parents should protect their daughters and make sure they are not circumcised. FGC is one tradition we need to leave in the past because every single child needs protection from physical harm and every single woman deserves to enjoy the orgasm that comes from clitoral stimulation. Longta!

10. Bravery. Shame nor dae pan enjoyment.

Finally, do not be scared to enjoy sex. Explore your own body so you can understand what brings you pleasure. Then work with your partner and show them how they can bring you pleasure. Talk openly. Watch videos. Read books. Do what you need to do to make sure that your sexual life is fulfilled. Sexual pleasure and sexual health is your human right.

Written by: arianadiaries

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